DEAR MAN: Asking for Something or Saying No
Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills Collection
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Effectively being able to ask assertively for what you want or need and saying no to requests is important for living an empowered and fulfilling life. DEAR MAN is a DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness skill that is a formula for asking for something or saying no to an unwanted request. This approach is an effective way to ask for an objective to be met.
D - Describe
E - Express
A - Assert
R - Reinforce
M - Maintain mindfulness
A - Act confident
N - Negotiate
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