In DBT, we use the GIVE skills during an interpersonal interaction when the relationship with the other person is important. GIVE skills are important for strengthening a relationship. Use GIVE skills during an interaction when the relationships is important to you so that the other person is more likely to feel positively about you after the interaction.
G - Gentle
I - Act Interested
V - Validate
E - Easy Manner
Validation is a skill taught in DBT and is one of the most important things you can do to improve your relationship with others and yourself. It acknowledges through words and behavior that what yourself or someone else feels makes sense, is understandable, and worthy of your time and attention.
To increase self-respect effectiveness in interpersonal interactions use the FAST DBT Skills.
F - Fair
A - No Apologies
S - Stick to the Facts
T - Truthful
Learn how to use reinforcement to increase behaviors that you want more of in yourself and others. Learn positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, and shaping.
Positive Reinforcement: Something rewarding is added when a behavior occurs, which increases the likelihood that the behavior wi...