In DBT, we use the GIVE skills during an interpersonal interaction when the relationship with the other person is important. GIVE skills are important for strengthening a relationship. Use GIVE skills during an interaction when the relationships is important to you so that the other person is more likely to feel positively about you after the interaction.
G - Gentle
I - Act Interested
V - Validate
E - Easy Manner
Validation is a skill taught in DBT and is one of the most important things you can do to improve your relationship with others and yourself. It acknowledges through words and behavior that what yourself or someone else feels makes sense, is understandable, and worthy of your time and attention.
Watch this video to learn how to use the FAST skills to build or maintain your self-respect during interpersonal interactions.
To be more effective interpersonally, it may be helpful to take a thoughtful look at how intensely you approach interactions where you are asking for something or saying no to something. There are many factors to consider when deciding the most effective intensity to use in an interaction, which...
