Match + 1 is a skill from Radically Open DBT that provides guidance for how to mindfully increase intimacy in relationships.

Use this scale to assess the emotional intimacy of your relationships. You can also use it as a gage to understand how to increase your intimacy by using Match +1.

The Dime Game is a helpful tool to use to determine the most effective level of intensity to use when asking for something or saying no to an unwanted request. Refer to The Dime Game video for guidance in how to use this worksheet.

Use this worksheet to plan your DEAR MAN script. Once completed, practice saying the DEAR MAN out loud. Also imagine saying it in your mind. The more you practice, the more natural it will feel when you use it in real life.